For Guys

Your partner has just discovered she's pregnant (or thinks she might be pregnant). This unplanned event may not be good news for you at this time. You might be feeling overwhelmed and are wondering how to handle this situation.

You May be Asking:

  • What are my options?
  • What part should I take in the decision making process?
  • What if I don’t want this baby?
  • What if I do want this baby and my partner doesn’t?
  • How can I help my partner? She’s so scared (and so am I!)
  • Who can help me?

The staff at the ABL understands your concerns and is here to talk with you. We will listen to you without judging you or your partner.

For Men

Questions for You to Consider:

  • Has she taken a pregnancy test?

We have laboratory quality pregnancy tests available at no cost to you.

  • Has she confirmed her pregnancy through ultrasound?

If not, we offer an ultrasound to confirm the pregnancy.

  • Have you both considered all the options?

We have info on all the pregnancy options and would be glad to talk with her or the two of you together.

What You Can Do Right Now:

  • Stay Calm. It's normal to have feelings of fear, anger, and frustration. You're not alone.
  • Don't Bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
  • Get All the Info. Making a decision you will both feel good about includes getting all the information you need on your options and taking time to process it.
  • Talk About It. Talk not only with each other, but with other people you trust who can help you think things through. Ignoring the situation will not make it go away.
  • Listen. She is looking to you for strength. That doesn't mean you have all the answers, just ears.
  • Don't Pressure. Applying pressure will only push her away. You'll do better if you work as a team.

Don't forget - you have a very important role in this situation. You're not alone. We can help.